tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2276443187691468996.post1597106900187217877..comments2023-10-31T08:55:52.793-07:00Comments on A submissive's Place: Coming Outnixiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17630996389284013750noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2276443187691468996.post-747984394301866342010-05-17T03:04:55.031-07:002010-05-17T03:04:55.031-07:00Thank you for your replies. i totally agree with ...Thank you for your replies. i totally agree with you Bunny that aspects of D/s don't seem so weird or scary and i think i took that approach, focusing on how W/we are a relationship, as it was the only way i could connect to the audience. As i have never been in any other serious relationship, i don't really understand how BDSM is not normal and that was the hardest part in writing it as i was trying to explain something to someone who lives in a way that i can't comprehend.<br /><br />And yes, i am aware of just how lucky i am to have friends and family who are so open-minded (i may not have told my family but i honestly don't see it bothering them if they did find out). That is part of why i don't understand secrecy i think, because i have been brought up to expect people to take me as i am without having to hide myself.nixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17630996389284013750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2276443187691468996.post-65029852562551485462010-05-12T10:06:46.409-07:002010-05-12T10:06:46.409-07:00That's a good point that so many of us don'...That's a good point that so many of us don't want to speak up about what we do. I think many of our vanilla friends just wouldn't understand. You're fortunate to have a best friend who's so understanding.<br /><br />FDFlorida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2276443187691468996.post-64079190982751268702010-05-12T07:42:43.710-07:002010-05-12T07:42:43.710-07:00I'm glad you've had such a positive respon...I'm glad you've had such a positive response to your coming out and I admire you for it although I have no desire to come out myself. I think part of the reason for the positive reaction is that D/s is multi-faceted. So even if the whole relationship dynamic seems weird or scary to people, aspects of it do not. Many vanilla couples will have one that is more dominating than the other, or engage in 'BDSM' play every now and then with gags and spankings. And if the couple seem happy, the worry that the submissive is being abused tends to be forgotten (although clearly abuse can be masked).Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05594679781902567279noreply@blogger.com